These days, many of us find it hard to find the time to have a decent and satisfactory sex life with our partner. We’re either too busy, too tired, or too stressed much of the time. While we may not like it, this is pretty normal.

What’s not normal is having no desire for sex for long periods of time. This usually signals that something physically, mentally, or emotionally is happening with the person. While in the past many people felt uncomfortable at the idea of talking to someone about their sex issues, it has become increasingly more common, and people are now turning to sex therapists for help.

How Do You Know if Sex Therapy is Right for You?

If you are experiencing a lack of libido, it’s first important to rule out that your problem stems from anything physical. It’s best to start by making an appointment with your gynecologist or urologist, who can detect any hormonal imbalances or any other illnesses/issues that may be going on.

Suppose you get the green light, medically speaking. In that case, your issues stem from something mental or emotional. You may be in the mood, but your partner isn’t. Maybe both of you are feeling a disconnection from the other.

Whatever it may be, a sex therapist can help you discover the issue and give you the tools to resolve it.

In general, sex therapy can address the following:

  • A lack of sexual desire
  • Intimacy after infidelity
  • A couple’s disparity in sex drives
  • Intimacy after having children
  • Sex addictions and/or compulsive behavior
  • Difficulties achieving orgasm.

What to Expect

Talk therapy is one of the tools used in sex therapy. Usually, these techniques will involve physical exercises that clients will do on their own outside of the therapy setting. Still, it’s generally not enough to resolve all of a person’s issues.

NOTE: Nothing of a physical or sexual nature should happen in the therapist’s office. Sex therapists are NOT the same as sex surrogates who do act in a physical way with their clients.

What’s not normal is having no desire for sex for long periods of time. This usually signals that something physically, mentally, or emotionally is happening with the person.

Finding a Therapist

If you want to explore treatment, finding a practitioner with the proper credentials is essential. Your therapist should be an experienced and licensed psychotherapist with training in sex therapy from a reputable program.

If you would like to explore treatment options, please get in touch with me. I’d be happy to discuss how I may be able to help.